This is a beautiful and short section in Imaam Ibn Qayyim
al-Jawziyyah’s ‘Ar-Rooh’ [1/254] regarding al-Walaa’ wal
Baraa’:
The difference between loving for the sake of Allah and loving
something alongside Allah is one of the most important distinctions.
Everyone needs to make this distinction and is indeed obliged to do so.
Loving for the sake of Allah is a sign of the perfection of faith, but
loving something alongside Allah is the essence of shirk. The
difference between them is that a person’s love for the sake of Allah
is connected to his love of Allah; if this love becomes strong in his
heart, this love dictates that he will love that which Allah loves. If
he loves that which his Lord loves and he loves those who are the
friends of Allah, this is love for the sake of Allah. So he loves His
Messengers, Prophets, angels and close friends because Allah loves
them, and he hates those who hate them because Allah hates those
people. The sign of the love and hatred for the sake of Allah is that
his hatred for the one whom Allah hates will not turn into love merely
because that person treats him kindly, does him a service or meets some
need he has; and his love for those whom Allah loves will not turn to
hatred simply because that person does something that upsets or hurts
him, whether it is done by mistake or deliberately, in obedience to
Allah or because the person feels that he has a duty to do it for some
reason, or because the person is a wrongdoer who may yet give up his
wrongdoing and repent. The entire religion revolves around four
principles: love and hatred, and stemming from them, action and
abstinence. The person whose love and hatred, action and abstinence, are
all for the sake of Allah, has perfected his faith so that when he
loves, he loves for the sake of Allah, when he hates, he hates for the
sake of Allah, when he does something, he does it for the sake of
Allah, and when he abstains from something, he abstains for the sake of
Allah. To the extent that he is lacking in these four categories, he
is lacking in faith and commitment to religion. This is in contrast to
the love of things alongside Allah, which is of two types. One is
diametrically opposed to the principle of tawheed and is shirk; the
other is opposed to perfection of sincerity and love towards Allah, but
does not put a person beyond the pale of Islam.The first kind is like
the love of the Mushrikeen for their idols and gods. Allah says:
“And of mankind are some who take (for worship) others besides Allah as rivals (to Allah). They love them as they love Allah.” [2:165]