We Must Restrain The Tongue
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: When the son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all the limbs humble themselves before the tongue and say: ”Fear Allah for our sake, (for) we are with you; if you are upright, we will be upright; and if you are crooked, we will become crooked." [at-Trimidhi]
The Messenger
(saws) also said: "Whoever can guarantee (the
chastity of) what is between his two jaw bones and what is between his
two legs (i.e. his mouth, his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee
Paradise for him." [Al-Bukhari]
Imaam Abdul-Azeez Bin Baaz
said: "This requires two affairs; [a] A lot of
remembrance (of Allah); [b] keeping away from gatherings of
heedlessness and doubts, and (keeping away from) that which will result
in fornication and nonsense speech." [Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taliqaat Al-Baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh al-Bukhari. Vol 4. Page:244. Footnote:2]
We Must Enjoin Good And Forbid Evil
Allah said:
لَّا خَيۡرَ فِى ڪَثِيرٍ۬ مِّن
نَّجۡوَٮٰهُمۡ إِلَّا مَنۡ أَمَرَ بِصَدَقَةٍ أَوۡ مَعۡرُوفٍ أَوۡ
إِصۡلَـٰحِۭ بَيۡنَ ٱلنَّاسِۚ وَمَن يَفۡعَلۡ ذَٲلِكَ ٱبۡتِغَآءَ
مَرۡضَاتِ ٱللَّهِ فَسَوۡفَ نُؤۡتِيهِ أَجۡرًا عَظِيمً۬ا
"There is no good in most of their secret
talks save (in) him who orders Sadaqah (charity in Allah’s Cause), or
Ma’roof (Islamic Monotheism and all the good and righteous deeds which
Allah has ordained), or conciliation between mankind." [4:114]
Meaning: There is no good in most of
their private conversations; therefore, if there is no good in it, then
there will be no benefit in it, such as excessive permissible speech,
speech that is evil and completely harmful and all types of unlawful
speech. Then Allah made an exception, saying: إِلَّا مَنۡ أَمَرَ بِصَدَقَةٍ
– Save (in) him who orders Sadaqah (charity in Allah’s Cause) -
Meaning: through wealth, knowledge or any means of benefit. And included
in this are the lesser acts of worship, such as Tasbeeh (the utterance
of SubhanAllah) and Tahmeed (the utterance of Alhamdulil-laah) and
what is similar, as the Prophet (saws) said: "Indeed, every Tasbeeh (utterance of SubhanAllah) is sadaqah, and
every Takbeer (utterance of Allahu Akbar) is Sadaqah, and every Tahleel
(utterance of Laa-ilaaha-ilal-lah) is Sadaqah, and Enjoining Good is
Sadaqah, and Forbidding Evil is Sadaqah, and even when one of you has
sexual intercourse (with his wife), there is Sadaqah in that.’’
[Muslim]
Then Allah said: أَوۡ مَعۡرُوفٍ – Or (one) who orders
Maruf – Meaning: perfection in worship and obedience, every good in the
Islamic legislation and everything whose goodness is known by way of
sound intellect (i.e. not in opposition to the Islamic legislation). And
whenever ‘Enjoining Good’ is mentioned and ‘Forbidding Evil’ is not
mentioned alongside it, ‘Forbidding Evil’ is also included. That is
because to abandon what is prohibited is part of good deeds and good
deeds cannot be complete except by abandoning evil. And in relation to
(dealing) with companions (or associates), Ma’roof is explained to mean
commanding (good) and Munkar means to abandon what is prohibited.
[An Excerpt from ‘Tafseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan Fi Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannaan’]
Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr quotes from Imaam Ibnul Qayyim who stated: "Disobedience (can) appear agreeable to a human being, such as Gheebah (backbiting), Nameemah (tale carrying), (blameworthy) argumentation, self-praise – whether uttered blatantly or indirectly, verbally abusing the one you hate, praising the one you love and what is similar to that. The intense urge (i.e. the urge to engage in these deeds) agrees with (the soul’s desire), then it becomes easy for the tongue to move (i.e. speak) and thus one’s patience weakens; so due to this the Messenger (saws) said to Mu’aadh, “Restrain your tongue”, so Mu’aad said, “O Messenger of Allah! Will we be held accountable for what we say?” He (saws) said, “May your mother be bereaved of you, O Mu’aadh! Is there anything that topples people on their faces – or he said on their noses into the fire- other than the harvest of their tongues?!” (This urge occurs), especially when sinning through the tongue is habitual because it entices a person towards impatience [i.e. he does not exercise patience in order to restrain his tongue]. This is why you find that a man performs the night prayer (i.e. Tahajjud, Qiyaamul Layl) and fasts during the day; as well as refrain from reclining on a pillow made of silk -out of fearing that he might enter into a doubtful affair that will affect him in the afterlife- but he backbites, spread tales and violates the honour of the people.
[An Excerpt from ‘Tafseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan Fi Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannaan’]
Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr quotes from Imaam Ibnul Qayyim who stated: "Disobedience (can) appear agreeable to a human being, such as Gheebah (backbiting), Nameemah (tale carrying), (blameworthy) argumentation, self-praise – whether uttered blatantly or indirectly, verbally abusing the one you hate, praising the one you love and what is similar to that. The intense urge (i.e. the urge to engage in these deeds) agrees with (the soul’s desire), then it becomes easy for the tongue to move (i.e. speak) and thus one’s patience weakens; so due to this the Messenger (saws) said to Mu’aadh, “Restrain your tongue”, so Mu’aad said, “O Messenger of Allah! Will we be held accountable for what we say?” He (saws) said, “May your mother be bereaved of you, O Mu’aadh! Is there anything that topples people on their faces – or he said on their noses into the fire- other than the harvest of their tongues?!” (This urge occurs), especially when sinning through the tongue is habitual because it entices a person towards impatience [i.e. he does not exercise patience in order to restrain his tongue]. This is why you find that a man performs the night prayer (i.e. Tahajjud, Qiyaamul Layl) and fasts during the day; as well as refrain from reclining on a pillow made of silk -out of fearing that he might enter into a doubtful affair that will affect him in the afterlife- but he backbites, spread tales and violates the honour of the people.
Backbiting
Shaykhul Islam Ibn Taymiyyah said: "Amongst the people there is one who backbites to show his agreement to those whom he sits with- his companions and family- even though he knows that the person being backbitten is innocent of what they say or some of what they say; but he sees that if he rebukes them, the gathering will cease, the people in the gathering will become annoyed and turn away from him; therefore he sees that to be in agreement with them is good treatment and good companionship. And indeed when they get angry, he might also get angry due to their anger (i.e. to show his agreement).And amongst the people there is one who backbites in various ways- sometimes in the guise of religious affairs and rectification, whilst saying: "I do not usually mention anyone except with good and neither do I like backbiting nor lying; rather I only inform you about his state of affairs’’, and then he says: "By Allah! Indeed, such and such person is a Miskeen or a good man, however there is such and such about him’’; or he might say: "Leave him alone! May Allah forgive us and him’’, however his intention is to belittle the person and elevate himself. So, he initiates backbiting in the guise of rectification and religious affairs. Indeed, we have seen – a lot – this (type of behaviour) from them and what is similar.
And amongst them there is one who raises the status of others out of show off and to raise his own status as well, saying: "If only I supplicate for such and such person in my prayer due to such and such news that has reached me about him’’, in order to raise his own status and make this statement in the presence of someone who believes that he truly wants to supplicate for that person; or he says, "Such and such person is simple minded and has little understanding’’, whilst intending to praise himself, affirm his own understanding and that he is more virtuous than that person. And amongst them is one who backbites due to envy, so he gathers between two repugnant traits – backbiting and envy. And if a person is praised, he seeks to stop such praise by mentioning the shortcomings of that person in the guise of religious advice and rectification, or through wicked speech and defamation to nullify that praise.
And amongst them is one who initiates backbiting in the guise of mockery and jest in order to make others laugh - mocking and belittling people. And amongst them is one who initiates backbiting in the guise of amazement, saying: ‘’I am amazed by such and such person as to why he did not do such and such, and why he falls into such and such, or why he did such and such’’; so he mentions the name of the person in the guise of amazement.
And amongst them is one who pretends to be grieved, saying: "Such and such person is Miskeen. What has happened to him grieves me’’, so the listener thinks that he is grieved and feels sorry, whilst his heart is happy due to the [misfortune] that person finds himself in. And if he was able, he would have increased that [misfortune] and maybe even mentions it to the enemies of the person. This (behaviour) and other than it is one of the greatest diseases of the heart. And amongst them is one who initiates backbiting in the guise of anger and forbidding evil, so he manifests beautified speech whilst intending other than what he manifests. And Allah’s Aid is sought!"
[An Excerpt from ‘Majmool Al-Fatawa 28/236-238]
Situations in which backbiting is permissible due to an overriding Shari’ah benefit
Backbiting is permissible in several situations when the need arises: When enquiring about the affair of someone you want to marry or before establishing a business partnership with someone. When complaining to the ruler about the oppressive behaviour of someone and seeking to stop the oppression. In these situations, there is no harm- due to an overriding benefit – in mentioning about a person in his absence that which he hates to hear. Some of the scholars mention the situations in which backbiting is permissible: [a] Complaint given by one who is wronged; [b] When describing a person; [c] When giving a warning against open evil [i.e. biddah committed by certain people]; [d]: Warning against a person who openly commits his sins. [e] When seeking a fatwa and [f] when seeking the help to stop evil. [Fataawa Lajnah Ad-Daa’imah 20/26]
Flattery: Imaam Ibnul
Qayyim said: "The one who flatters himself or others
cannot smell the fragrance of truthfulness." [Al-Fawaa’id]
Mockery - The Jahl of a Scornful Person
Allah said:
وَإِذْ قَالَ مُوسَىٰ لِقَوْمِهِ إِنَّ
اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تَذْبَحُوا بَقَرَةً ۖ قَالُوا أَتَتَّخِذُنَا
هُزُوًا ۖ قَالَ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ أَنْ أَكُونَ مِنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ
"And (remember) when Musa (Moses) said to
his people: “Verily, Allah commands you that you slaughter a cow.” They
said, “Do you make fun of us?” He said, “I take Allah’s Refuge from
being among Al-Jahilun (the ignorants or the foolish)". [2:67]
A Jaahil (ignorant one) is that one who
speaks with a speech that contains no benefit and he mocks at the
people. As for a sensible person, he sees that one of the most
blameworthy traits -which is abhorred by (sound) religion and intellect -
is to mock at someone who is a human being like himself. And if he has
been favoured over another person, then this favour necessitates that he
thanks Allah and shows mercy to Allah’s servants. Therefore, when
Musa said this to them i.e. I take Allah’s Refuge
from being among the ignorant, they knew that it i.e. what he
commanded them was truth, so they said: ادْعُ لَنَا رَبَّكَ يُبَيِّن
لَّنَا مَا هِيَ - call upon your Lord for us that He may make plain to us
what it is! (2:68) [An Excerpt from ‘Tafseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan Fi Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannaan’]
The Difference Between Having a High Aspiration And Excessive Feeling of Self-importance
Shaykh Uthaymeen
said: "To have a high aspiration (or a high ambition in the path of
seeking knowledge) is that a person preserves his time, knows how to
utilize it and does not waste time instead of utilizing it in something
beneficial. And when (another) person comes to him and he sees that
sitting with such person will distract (or divert him from what is
beneficial, befitting etc), he knows how to act (behave or react). As
for pride (or having an excessive sense of one’s own importance), it is
about the behaviour of that one who belittles others and he does not
consider people to be anything else other than frogs. And it may be that
he would turn his face away whilst speaking to the people, just as the
author stated that the difference between having high aspirations and
pride is like the difference between the sky with (clouds) that give
rain, again and again and the earth which splits (with the growth of
trees and plants)." [Sharh Hilyati Taalibil Ilm. Page 163]
Concealment and Misrepresentation During Dispute And Disagreement
Narrated Umm Salamah: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Indeed, I am only a human being and you people (i.e. disputants) come to me with your disputes. And it may be that one of you can present his case more eloquently than the other and I consider him truthful, and judge in his favour. So if I ever judge and give the right of a brother to his brother, then it is a piece of hell-fire and let him not take it.” [Al-Bukhari]
Some Benefits Derived From This Hadith:
[a] The Ummah (i.e. the
scholars and judges) have been commissioned to judge based on what is
apparent; but the mere judgement of a judge cannot prohibit the lawful
and allow the unlawful (i.e. because it cannot be taken if proven
erroneous).
[b] This Hadith contains a refutation against those who say that the Messengers possess knowledge of the unseen.
[c] This Hadith also
shows that speech can be seen to be true based on what is apparent, but
it is truly falsehood with regards to what is hidden within it.
[d] Also this Hadith shows that the one who receives a judgement in his favour is more aware
than every other person as to whether he is entitled to it or whether he
is a falsifier. So, he takes it if he is entitled to it or leaves it if
he a falsifier, because in reality a judgment cannot change an affair
from what it was in origin (i.e. the original truth in the affair before
its distortion or concealment).
[e] Also this Hadith shows the sinfulness of the one who argues based on falsehood until he
receives what he wants publicly, whilst he is upon falsehood.
[f] Also in this
Hadith is proof to show that a scholar can make a mistake and it is a
refutation against those who say that every Mujtahid is correct.
[g] Also this Hadith shows us that the Mujtahid is forgiven (when he makes a mistake).
[An Excerpt From ‘Saheeh Al-Bukhari – Kitaab Al-Ahkaam (Book of Judgements) with Fathul Baari. Chapter 29: Hadith Number: 7181]
False Accusation: The
Prophet (saws) said: "Whoever accuses a believer
of something that is not true, Allah will make him dwell in flowing pus
on the Day of Judgement." [Saheeh Al-Jaami 6169]
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