Love for your Sister what you Love for Yourself !!!

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem 

O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allâh has chosen you, purified you (from polytheism and disbelief), and chosen you above the women of the 'Alamîn (mankind and jinn) (of her lifetime)."

O Mary! "Submit yourself with obedience to your Lord (Allâh, by worshipping none but Him Alone) and prostrate yourself, and Irkâ'i (bow down) along with Ar-Râki'ûn (those who bow down)." (3:42-43)

My dear sisters Ar-Rakiun (those who bow down) submit and embrace Allah's Deen completely, I address this message to you, for you are the mothers and teachers of the future warriors and and dawah carriers of this noble Deen.

On the authority of Anas (ra) [Fath Al Bari. 7 158] Prophet (pbuh) described how, on his Night Journey, he encountered an old women, and was thereupon told by Jibriel, "This old woman is the mortal world [ad-dunya].
In the words of another hadith on the authority of Abu Hurairah (ra) [ibid] the Prophet (pbuh) passed by people who were sowing and harvesting and every time they completed their harvest (the grain) grew up again, Jibriel said: These are the fighters in Allah's cause (Mujahidun) then they passed by people whose heads were being shattered by rocks and every time they were shattered they became whole again... Jibriel said: These are those whose heads were oblivious of prayer...Then they passed by a people who were eating raw, rotten meat and throwing away good, wholesome meat. Jibriel said, these are the adulterers.

For a Muslim Ummah to function in a manner that suits His Majesty Al Mutakabbir it must follow the footsteps of Prophet (pbuh) and the Sahabah (ra)

Prophet (pbuh) said:" Follow my sunnah and the sunnah of the rightly guided Khalifahs." (At-Tirmithi, Ahmad, Ibn Majah and Al-Hakim)

Aisha (ra) said " The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) did something as an example in order to make things easier for people, but some people still refrain from doing it. When Prophet (pbuh) heard that, he praised Allah and said: What do you think of people who refrain from anything that I myself do? By Allah I am the greatest of them in knowledge of Allah and the strongest of them in fear of Allah. (Sahih Muslim and Bukhari) 

A question that keeps disturbing others and myself and is repeatedly coming up everywhere is:

"can I put a clause in my marriage contract stating that my husband cannot take a second wife?"

Ya Lateef ..... shock horror not a second wife not my Muslim sister being equal to me or taking something that belongs to me... as if anything belongs to us anyway!!! as we are just passing through going on a journey and a good husband is an asset and a trust but by no means the object of the journey... that solely belongs to the Al Waasey (The All Embracing).

I've heard it many times and feel a need say something about this munkar, to remind as the reminder profits the believers.

May Ar-Rasheed (The guide to the straight path) direct our ways to please Him-Ameen.

Dearest Sisters is this a new fashion a new biddah a new selfishness appearing in our Ummah and this is from the sisters who do Irka'i bow down, but this bowing down is not complete not comfortable not a source of total succumbing for if we cannot fully succumb to Allah's Deen then we have missed the target we have strayed and become silly women who follows their own nafs their own intellect and left behind something of much higher value, something cherished, a privilege awarded to our sisterhood, for we have not bothered to climb the mountain but have been content to look at the mountain from afar.

2: 208. O you who believe! Enter perfectly in Islam (by obeying all the rules and regulations of the Islamic religion) and follow not the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan). Verily! He is to you a plain enemy.

Your not a believer until you love for your brother (sister) what you love for yourself, a very simple statement by our beloved Prophet (pbuh), very easy to understand Alhumdulillah but probably one of the most profound set of words and certainly this encompasses a Muslims interactions in social life.

So since when is it a wise thing that a human believes that their own judgement to be better than that of Al Hakam (The Judge). He alone we worship and He alone has full sovereigntyvover all of our affair. La huwla walla quwaita illah bilaah.

3:133. And march forth in the way (which leads to) forgiveness from your Lord, and for Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for Al-Muttaqun. 

Is it marching forth or racing towards Allah for His mercy, if when He opens an opportunity for us to strive and establish a sunnah and a great benefit to the Ummah we cling to our half witted ideas from Jahilliyah using a western mindset and refuse to understand or even open up a way of Ascension... Would you exchange that which is higher for that which is lower?

What concerns us and should occupy our minds and what we aim to achieve is steadfastness and uprightness in following what Allah has commanded. Everything else should come easy and seem insignificant in comparison with the magnitude of this great Religion and with the sacrifices of those good people before us, who sought to render this Religion victorious and pass it on to us tender, pure and complete.

Sheikh Abu Sa’d al-‘Amili 

When a Sister doesn't want for her Sister what she wants for herself, she is committing Thulm (oppression) and she becomes lower in the eyes of Allah, the eyes of her husband and the believers, she creates an unnecessary fitna (trial), puts her sister whose already struggling in more hardship, which in turn could even lead to a greater fitna authubillah. We should seek Allah's direction in all matters Insha'Allah.

We are not in a position to negotiate what it is we accept of Islam, so please my Sisters don't be an advocate for Shaytaan who loves to cause strife amongst families and the strife is not your husband wanting another wife to please Allah but the strife is you refusing it, being an enemy unto yourself as Umar (ra) so appropriately put it:

Umar Ibn Khattab (ra) said: I do not care in what state I wake in the morning whether it is good or bad. Since I don't know what is good for me or what is bad for me.

3: 74. Verily, those who conceal what Allah has sent down of the Book, and purchase a small gain therewith (of worldly things), they eat into their bellies nothing but fire. Allah will not speak to them on the Day of Resurrection, nor purify them, and theirs will be a painful torment. 

3: 175. Those are they who have purchased error at the price of Guidance, and torment at the price of Forgiveness. So how bold they are (for evil deeds which will push them) to the Fire. 

3: 176. That is because Allah has sent down the Book (the Qur'an) in truth. And verily, those who disputed as regards the Book are far away in opposition

But the wronged sister who has sabr (patience) with the decree of Allah will prevail and improve in Allah's eyes biitnillah and be rewarded for her mistreatment whilst the one who wishes to travail the transitory path of life will be the real loser even though she sees herself to be right and justified and this is the worse state to openly declare the sunnah of Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) is beneath them, to disregard it, to disapprove of it, was it beneath our mothers? the mothers of the believers, our noble role models, no! no by Allah what ever hardship they went through in plural marriages was diminished by full obedience to Allah first, their husband and a deep understanding of the hikma of allowing and participating in such a relationship. 

2: 155. And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).

If we love the Sahabah we will follow them in all aspect of life and more often than not they were all in polygamous relationships and one of many outstanding characteristics of these righteous men and women was they never left a widow or a divorced woman to fend for themselves, they truly loved for each other what they loved for themselves, Masha'Allah.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) advised us to be gentle, kind, compassionate and lenient in our dealings with one another.
On the authority of Aisha (ra), the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) is reported to have said: “Allah is kind and He loves kindness in all affairs.” (Bukhari)

Forgive me for my direct words if they hurt your feelings dear Sister, as a Ummah our hearts should be one and this is something we all have to work on to the best of our ability for your actions hurt our Sisters more than you will realize and if you feel you cant allow your husband his right then remember the mother of the believer who felt her jealously would ruin a great blessing, Allah supported her and made her failing drop from her just as tears drop upon our chests whenever we see the believers in difficulties, Allah indeed always makes a way out of every difficulty, Alhumdulillah.

3: 103. And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah (i.e. this Qur'an), and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allah's Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His Grace, you became brethren (in Islamic Faith), and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allah makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear to you, that you may be guided.

Please remember there are many Sisters struggling and their children are in need of support and its all our duties to protect them, some Sisters have lost their husbands and children some have been imprisoned and once release alienated from their protectors. I think we all know the ills that are happening in our societies we cant turn a blind eye just so we can enjoy the perks of married life .
Our aim in life is to seek Allah's pleasure we must work together for the betterment of all Muslims feesabililah.
If you hold back your husband in this regard Allah will replace you with someone who does care for her sister so please take heed and strive to establish honor and dignity for all in our society especially when Allah calls on you to do it, see it as a way to obtain His mercy on you and your children and see it as a step closer to a way of life we should all hanker after a life style similar to the Sahabah (ra). Think of your sister first and yourself last, as the hand that gives is superior, and the giver will be compensated by Allah more than we can understand for we are sisters who must be aware that the future days are the days of the sorting out those who really walk the talk and we must prepare our daughters for coming days when a man will look after 40 women.
Times are a changing and we must adapt and return to the Days of Prophet (pbuh) a mercy to mankind so our Deen will prevail all over the world, this is for our children, our future generations.

No more selfish Islam but a Islam where the heart of the believer is Kareem !!!

2; 216. and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.

We also need to protect the unborn children who are denied a right to be conceived in a halal manner when a sister denies her husband the right to marry again or makes difficulties for him once he's decided on a course to please Allah. If she does that she helps to obstruct Muslim children to be born, this is not a insignificant matter it is a serious concern for all who fear Allah, His justice and Judgement day.

2: 205. And when he turns away (from you "O Muhammad"), his effort in the land is to make mischief therein and to destroy the crops and the cattle, and Allah likes not mischief. 

2: 223. Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth , when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your ownselves.

And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers.

2: 231 And treat not the Verses (Laws) of Allah as in a frivolous spirit , but remember Allah's Favours on you (i.e. Islam), and that which He has sent down to you of the Book (i.e. the Qur'an) and Al-Hikmah (the Prophet's Sunnah - legal ways - Islamic jurisprudence, etc.) whereby He instructs you. And fear Allah, and know that Allah is All-Aware of everything.

Abu Amaamah (ra) narrates that Prophet (pbuh) said:

One who cuts the due (Haqq) of a Muslim (this is binding, otherwise rights of all are equal) by oath, so Indeed Allah will make the Hell obligatory for him and will make Jannah haram for him. Somebody asked even if that was an ordinary thing, Prophet (pbuh) replied, even if that was just a wooden stick of the people. (Sahih Muslim)

42: 20. Whosoever aspires (with his deeds) the harvest of the Hereafter, We give him increase in his harvest , and whosoever aspires to the harvest of this world (with his deeds), We give him thereof (what is written for him), and he has no portion in the Hereafter.